MINDHUGS WELLNESS
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Friday, March 11, 2022
Stop Misinforming the Public about Optometrists in Ghana
Sunday, October 10, 2021
What You Need to Know About Therapy
A few weeks ago I met a gentleman who was deeply disturbed. He was stressed out and clearly frustrated. He indicated that he hasn't been sleeping well for a while now and was always tired and irritable. He seemed to be getting angry at the least provocation and It was affecting his work, family and health. He was clearly stressed and burnt out. He also indicated that certain subjects and situations caused him to have panic attacks and palpitations. He didn't have any energy to even get out of bed some days and everything felt boring and uninteresting. When I suggested that he considers therapy, he quickly rejected the idea . To him, therapy was for people with "real" mental issues and not just tiredness. I had to take time to explain exactly what therapy really was about and how it was going to benefit him.
Unfortunately, he isn't the only one who has a warped misunderstanding of therapy. To most people, Mental Health issues and consequently, therapy are for other people and not them but what exactly is therapy and why is it important?
Therapy is defined by the Cambridge Dictionary as a form of treatment that helps someone feel better or grow stronger especially after an illness or any other ailments. That's it. It isn't a complicated medical procedure for only a special type of people. Unfortunately the stigma associated with Mental Health Issues is projected on the term Therapy and has created an errorneous image in the minds of most people. However, the appropriate therapy administered by a qualified professional will not only reverse any harmful ailments but actually improve the quality of life. Some of the challenges therapy can help you with are
1. When facing a major life transition
2. When facing a significant crisis, complex problems or trauma.
3. When dealing with an extended period of anxiety or depression
4. When dealing with complicated family dynamics
or grappling with problems in a relationship
5. When trying to manage an addiction or substance abuse
5. When you want to make changes for better mental, physical and emotional health etc.
So how do you know which type of therapy will be good for you? Psychology.com lists over 50 types of Psychological Therapies ranging from simple ones like coaching to more complex ones like biofeedback and neurofeedback therapies. Some of the most common types of therapies are
1. Counseling Approaches.
2. Psychoanalytic and Psychodynamic Therapies
3. Behavioral Therapy - cognitive behavioral therapy, dialectical behavior therapy, systematic desensitization, and flooding.
4. Cognitive Therapy
5. Humanistic Therapy - gestalt therapy, client-centered therapy, and existential therapy
6. Integrative Therapy - a combination of several therapies to produce a holistic approach.
Therapy may be individualistic or in a group and it can be online or in person. The duration could also be short term or long term based on the type and target. A therapist, psychologist or trained counselor or coach may specialize in a specific type of therapy or may combine elements from different ones to achieve the desired results.
Therapy can also help improve communication skills, self empowerment and how to develop fresh insights about your life. It can also teach you to make healthier choices and develop coping strategies to manage distress.
Although Mental Health services are scarce and mostly hard to find in our public health centers, there has been a significant rise in private facilities that offer various forms of therapies, counseling and coaching services.
In conclusion, the stress and other struggles we have to deal with on a daily basis have a significant and debilitating effect on our minds and subsequently our emotions. Seeking help though therapy is not only the right thing to do but it is also the most emotionally intelligent option to take. If you are struggling with any of the issues I mentioned above or knows someone who is, consider therapy. It can save yours or their life.
Written by
Dr. Samuel Tinagyei
Optometrist, Mental Health Advocate, Certified Master Coach, NLP Master Practitioner, Author and Speaker.
Monday, September 27, 2021
Are You Friends?
Tuesday, August 24, 2021
First Impressions Are Great, Lasting Impressions Are Even Better.
First impressions are Great, Lasting Impressions Are Even Better.
Lots of people are very concerned about first impressions. Yes. They should rightly be. After all, research on the issue indicates that people basically reach a conclusion on whether they like you or not in about one tenth of a second upon meeting you for the first time. Subsequently, first impressions determine whether you get a second chance or not. So yes, it is very important to make the best possible first impression. But what happens afterwards?
Unfortunately lots of people just focus so much on first impressions and simply forget about lasting impressions. It is quite common especially in Ghana, to have lots of people or businesses treating you like royalty on the first interaction and then treating you like trash subsequently. It looks like after they get your business or make your acquaintance, the love quickly evaporates like soap bubbles in sunlight.
Politicians are so polite when they come asking for your votes and then promptly use police dispatch riders to push you out of the way after they win. It appears that, all that matters to most people is to make a good first impression without any consideration for a lasting impression. This is why most people and businesses are not able to stay on top for long or easily fade away after a brief period of time. They fail to earn loyalty.
First impressions are very powerful. In fact a bad first impression can extremely affect the way something is perceived for a long time. However a good lasting impression goes beyond perception. It creates confidence, devotion, trust and loyalty. A good lasting impression is created by a commitment to the maintenance and even enhancement of quality and reliability. A good lasting impression says, I'm not just in for a quick sale or a little profit. I'm in for a lasting relationship. That's how loyalty and commitment are created. A good first impression may give you an enthusiastic customer but a good lasting impression will give you a loyal partner and client. These are the people who become your fans, tribe and family.
So the next time you set out to make a good first impression, remember to follow it up with a good lasting impression. That's how you turn strangers to family.
~Dr. Samuel Tinagyei
Tuesday, August 17, 2021
Are You Guarding Your Circle of Influence?
Let me ask you a question. What happens when your best friend or your favorite person accidentally drops a drop of deadly poison in your mouth? Did you just say, you will die? Wow. OK. How about if the love of your life or your most respected family member does the same thing? You will still die? Even if they love you deeply? Hmm. I see. So it doesn't matter what the intentions are, if someone feeds you poison, there will be death. So why do you allow just anyone to enter into your circle of influence and poison your most precious dreams and vision?
I believe the most critical skill a vision carrier must master is the ability to navigate the quagmire of hypocrisy, discouragement and self seeking selfishness disguised under the canopy of "friendship" and "concern". He or she also needs the alertness to steer clear of the land mines of dream killing and mediocre detractors whose complete mentality is to bring others down to their limit; the barest floor. A vision carrier must be as gentle as a dove, but as cunning as a serpent in order to carry their dream to full term.
I will say this again and again. You have to be extremely careful about the people you allow into your innermost circle. The ones you allow to have an influence on you, your goals and your plans. The ones you tell your dreams to. Some are only there and appear to support you as long as you don't DO ANYTHING BIG or AMBITIOUS. Try anything that intimidates their mediocre mentality and they will discourage you! They will come in the skin of looking out for your safety whilst all the want is to make sure you don't move too quickly or too far away from them. Since they don't want to feel like failures, they will keep you down with them under the pretense of worrying about you. Remember the story of the African crabs in a bucket?
Also stay away from fair weather friends. Guard your sanity and your destiny.
Instead, look for dream builders and vision helpers. Look for path lighters and catalysts of success. They are the ones who will become your support systems, your enablers and constituents. Guard your inner space very diligently.
-Dr. Samuel Tinagyei